“Cultivate your wife!”
~ Dr. Myles Munroe
Bahamas Faith Fellowship
How’s her love tank?
Chapman also borrows a term
from Dr. Ross Campbell, a child
psychologist, who says “Inside
every child is an ‘emotional tank’
waiting to be filled with love.”
This is liken to the oil tank in a
vehicle—in order to run
smoothly, it needs to be full and
well maintained. The same is
true for our marriages. How's
your wife’s emotional love tank?
Brothers, it might be time for all
of us to check that tank! It's
easy for us guys to get caught
up in cars, sports, hobbies, tv—
hopefully, we are not spending
more time on these than we are
making deposits into that love
tank! Chapman says that we can
expect "People to behave
differently when their emotional
love tanks are full."

To learn more about
The Five
Love Languages and The
Purpose of the Male Man,
over to the
resource page.

As Valentine's Day is around the
corner, let's really surprise and
bless our wives by using her
primary love language, filling up
her love tank, and making a
commitment to ourselves to
cultivate her all year round! Also
commit to telling one friend
about your cultivation pledge
and plan. And, then call out the
cultivator in him as well!

Bless your marriage,
Brother Willie Quan
and wants its beauty to flourish,
he’ll do anything it takes, and do
it faithfully.

How can we cultivate our wives?
I want to recommend some
lessons from Dr. Gary
Chapman. In his book,
The Five
Love Languages (How to
Express Heartfelt Commitment to
Your Mate).
He encourages us
to understand the “love
language” spoken by our
spouse. He highlights five ways
people express and receive love:
Words of Affirmation
encouragement through words
(can be verbal or written).
Quality Time—focused and
intentional time spent together.
Receiving Gifts—gifts are
visual symbols of love.
Acts of Service—doing
something to meet a practical
need for the other person.
Physical Touch—hugs, rubs,
kisses, strokes, touch that
conveys warmth and affection.

Chapman says that what’s
important is for us to know what
our spouse’s love language is.
Not to just use the expression
that we naturally favor, but to
relate to our spouse in the
language that is their primary
language. Some ways you can
discover your wife's love
language are: by observing to
see how she expresses love; or
by experimenting to see which
best she responds to when you
use it on her; or by simply
asking (don’t be shy to ask).
In his series, The Purpose of the
Male Man
, Dr. Myles Munroe
(one of my favorite motivators)
expounds on how God has
created and designed the ‘male’
man to be a cultivator.
According to Genesis 2:15,
then the Lord God took the man
and put him into the garden of
Eden to cultivate it and keep it.”

Cultivate means to make
something grow, produce, and
increase. Munroe says that the
original assignment that God left
for Adam was for him to make
the garden better. In this, we
men also find our assignment.
God placed Adam in Eden.
Where has God placed you?
Who has God placed you with?

As husbands, I want to
encourage us all to cultivate our
wives! Brothers, let’s rise to the
occasion to help our wives
bloom and blossom into
something much more than they
are today—that both their inner
and outer beauty would
continually increase.

And, I do not mean trying to
‘change’ her. But when a
gardener tends his garden, he
gives to it. He tills the soil; he
waters it regularly; he doesn’t
allow weeds to grow; he applies
the right fertilizers (nutrients); he
kills off all harmful pests—
because he loves his garden
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Bless Your Marriage Letters                      Issue 2                              February  2006
Bless Your Marriage Letters                      Issue 2                              February  2006